Is it possible to sever ties with your entire family and be happy?

Question by Drivenbydesire: Is it possible to sever ties with your entire family and be happy?
I’m 28 and I feel blessed to be healthy, have a good job and live with the love of my life. However, I’m scared that I’m losing my mind because of the traumatic experiences I had. I cut off my family a year ago. After a messy divorce, my dad used me as his ATM, emotionally blackmailing me whenever I refused to lend him money and my mom treated me like I was her rival. All my life, she put me down and saw me as a threat. My brother and sister are selfish and very materialistic. So many people said “But they are your parents!” and expected me to put up with harmful behavior just because!

Since my family was so crappy, I chose to focus on making myself happy, put myself through college, worked hard and realized my dream of becoming a successful tv reporter. When my relatives started seeing me on tv, they assumed they could extort me for money and tried to guiltrip me into giving them money. I initially gave them money but recently decided to stop being used.

The only person who truly loved me was my grandfather, but he died 3 years ago and it devastated me to the point that I got very sick but I’m better now. I always focused on moving on but I’m haunted by painful memories. I’m lucky to be engaged to the most amazing guy in the world but I’m still a little sad to not have a family. My mom told me God would punish me for being a bad person. Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night with anxiety. I don’t want to feel guilty anymore, especially if one of my parent dies. They never cared about me. How do I stop caring about them?

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Answer by wishnuwelltoo
But you need counseling to cope with the trauma your family put you through

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2 thoughts on “Is it possible to sever ties with your entire family and be happy?”

  1. The first thing you need to realize is any issues you have are internal, and those internal issues need to be let go, ” If you hold in your shit, both literally and figuratively you’ll die”, You have to let go and forgive yourself for any mistakes you made in the past and eradicate all negative emotions that try to come back. Don’t let them manipulate you anymore, let them say what they want the truth will set you free as long as it doesn’t get you arrested. Lol

  2. You bet you can let go and be happy but you have to let go 100%. You are still holding on to the guilt of doing just that. Just plain let go and who cares what your mother said! I believe we can choose our family in life. We can surround ourselves with positive influences and people who truly love us! I have let go of my entire family, except for my mother, stepfather, and brother, and it was the best thing I ever did! It helps a little that we are military and move every once in a while so nobody can track us down but it wouldnt matter if I lived next door.

    When you can really and truly “let go” you can never imagine the freedom you will feel! You don’t need counseling unless you continue to go on like you are. Just let it go, let it go, let it go!!! Be FREEEEEEE!!!

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