my 5 yr old son is always angry, aggressive, hyper, not listening?

Question by Kris J: my 5 yr old son is always angry, aggressive, hyper, not listening?
For the past year at least, my son has been angry, aggressive, hyper, and does not listen to me. It doesn’t matter how nice I am to him, he always lashes out at me in anger…even says “i hate you mom” all the time. His father and I split up a couple years ago, but have been back together for a year now. My son is aggressive, he bullies, he is extremely hyper active (day care teachers have suggested he may have adhd). I love my son, but his behavior is so troubling. I don’t know what to do. I can’t even control him when we go to my parents house! It’s embarrassing, but more than that, it’s sad. Anyone have any ideas on how to help him?

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Answer by mcq316
Smack him on the ass and tell him to shape up. YOU are the adult. YOU are in charge. Set some goddamn rules and punish the little devil when he doesn’t follow them. He doesn’t listen, you MAKE him listen. If that means sitting him in the corner for a while, do that. If it means you have to sit right there with him to make sure he stays, you DO THAT.

I’m not saying you should beat you child. But instill somegood ol’ fashioned DISCIPLINE.

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5 thoughts on “my 5 yr old son is always angry, aggressive, hyper, not listening?”

  1. Discipline him, don’t let him run you!!! His father should be spanking him when he acts up. Boys are more aggressive, they NEED discipline!! My parents did not take any crap from us (3 boys and 2 girls). I never talked back to my parents because they instilled this fear in me that stopped me from even thinking about doing it. If you don’t believe in spanking, take his favorite things away from him, put him in time outs. You and your husband have to be on the same page when it comes to disciplining your son.

  2. You should try to sit down and talk to him when he is not in an aggressive mood & find out what is going on with him. Maybe even get him into therapy. he may blame you for what happened between you & his daddy & even though things are fine now, he may still be worried that it could happen again.

  3. I bet you what is happening is, you felt guilty about the divorce, so you’ve been too soft with him. The lack of discipline is what’s making him this way. He SHOULD NOT BE ALLOWED to say “I hate you.” That is disrespectful. He can think it, but don’t you dare say it. He should go to time out (or whatever you use) every time he says this. In general, you should stop tolerate any misbehavior and get him in line. A kid with no boundaries is not happy. Read some books on discipline…I’d go to Amazon and check the reviews, and then see if your library has them! Good luck!

  4. You are not meant to “control” your child’s behaviour. You are meant to guide him to making better choices that are socially acceptable.

    Start reading at the aha parenting website written by Dr. Laura Markham a clinical psychologist specialing in relationship based parenting also known as positive parenting, gentle discipline. Start with http://www.ahaparenting.com/parenting-tools/positive-discipline/use-positive-discipline How to use Positive Discipline and read from there. http://www.ahaparenting.com/parenting-tools/discipline

    Dealing with an angry child: http://www.ahaparenting.com/parenting-tools/raise-great-kids/emotionally-intelligent-child/angry-child

    Try getting the book “Easy to Love Difficult to Discipline” by Becky Baily and “Connected Parenting” by Jennifer Kolari.

    Make him a partner in making the guidelines for behavior in the house. Empower HIM in making choices in his life. Show him empathy.

  5. That is an issue in a 5 year old.

    I think he needs to see a therapist. A 5 year old should not act like that. If it was a 1 or 2 year old, or even a 3 year old it would be normal and just in need of firm discipline. But aggression in a 5 year old is a really big problem and needs professional help.

    All the kids who misbehave are called ADHD now. I’m not sure I buy into that, but I do think it sounds like your son needs help that neither you nor the teachers can provide.

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